Thought so. Natural Brit response. Ask a yank and 50% of the time it’s either another continent or a veritable xmas pudding of nationalities! don’t you find?
It is like that since we are kids. The popular kids. The Queen bees. The outcasts, theater kids, geeks, The last kids picked for dodgeball.
1. Until you realize the popular kids are just losers.
Unfortunately there definitely is such a thing as hierarchy and privileges that is only given by a collective. A single person cannot override that outlook on others. They may opt to not participate and may be more "fair or neutral".
You will still be judged based on your appearance (pretty privilege and height privilege have been proven many times over in university studies, the attractive are granted favors where the unattractive are ignored) assumptions on your socioeconomic status and being treated accordingly, masculine behavior will garner you more favorable attention than feminine the majority of the time.
May I ask what your ethnicity is? White MAN here with a taste in latinos in particular!
But surely he is escaping or rather freeing himself from them by not giving a shite??
Well there you go then! You shoulld move to the UK as we don’t consider Latinos a minority as such or a particular ethnicity as such. They blend with Spanish/ Italian/ Portugese - generally European - and face no prejudice. Our racists target black and (southeast) Asians for some reason. You’d actually possibly be quite the catch!
Caveat of course is that if you’re a minger ur a minger no matter ur heritage!
Hmmm….I guess that comes down to the social concept of privilege. If we replaced “beauty” and “height” with “white” I would imagine you would hear crickets chirping.
Every rose has its thorn. I’m not super tall (as in 6’5” plus at least those heights frequent dating apps) but I hit 6’2” at some point and I remember being told by a (shock horror) shorter/ average kid at senior (high?) school that I was rigid, stiff like a board and needed to relax, blend in and be “cooler” … basically slouch more. Took me until my twenties to fix postural problems from overdoing that just to belong or at least not stand out so much. I’m no spring chicken and this was when the average height was quite a bit shorter (these days guys are getting taller and I experience what its like looking upwards to talk to younger guys and it feels … odd!).
Confidence to me is like an apex masculine feature. It creates a powerful charisma that is magnetic. I am drawn to it, especially when it is an accompanied with a playful, kind, kinky, or good-humored personality.
Nice one, I tick all those budy except maybe for kinky ... that all depends upon the chemistry and, despite my stature and inevitably (97ish% of the time) playing the more "dominant" role, I get super filthy being with a guy who ignores my size and takes control. Super Hot!!!! And I'm not talking top or bottom here, more sexual aggression (in a "healthy" way). And I LOVE a super dirty talker!!!!
I hope I caused no offense - assuming ur a yank y'all are a bit sensitive when is comes to talking about race and ethnicity. They say racism is more "covert" in the UK which may be true, but our warmth is overt enough to transcend barriers around what constitutes reasonable language (within reason, of course). For example, I had an American acquaintance scold me for using the word "oriental" cos when we say Asian we inevitably mean Indian, PAkistani, SE, etc. Apparently it's a racist term?
